Frequently Asked Questions that you might not even realise you wanted to ask until you read them. If your question isn't answered here, please contact me.

I'm older than you/ of a different race/ disabled/ disfigured/ LGBTQIA+/ superficially different to you in some way. Can we still see each other?

Absolutely, YES. I embrace diversity (literally and figuratively). If you are clean, presentable and well-mannered, whatever makes us seem different on the surface will soon melt away when we meet.

Can I make a booking over the phone?

It is better both for you and for me to keep communications via e-mail or text, rather than to go straight to calling on our mobiles.

  1. This way, we both have a written record of our conversation to refer to, so neither of us will forget any important details.
  2. I ignore hundreds of nuisance calls from people attempting to get free "phone chat" every day, because they would waste time I want to spend on YOU, my Client.

I check my phone very regularly, so you are very unlikely to have to wait long for a response to your enquiry; usually less than an hour during normal business hours. Contact me now to see.

If you are trying to keep all possible record of a conversation off your phone, chat to me live by tapping the pink speech bubble in the bottom right corner of this screen.

What do you do to protect my/ our privacy?

I understand how important discretion is to mutual trust and a relaxation, and employ the following strategies to protect our privacy.

I send personal communications using encrypted, fingerprint-protected e-mail (ProtonMail). I use encrypted, fingerprint-protected text messaging (WhatsApp) with disappearing messages. I recommend you do the same.

I will never call you. I will never forward your e-mails or text messages. I will always dress appropriately when we are out together in public. I will ensure that my makeup never appears on your clothing. I carefully select incall venues with bars or cafes conveniently adjacent where you can wait discreetly and unwind if you happen to arrive early (no awkward lobby-lingering necessary) and provide gender-neutral soap and shower gel alongside a strong mouthwash and clean white towels, which you should make thorough use of upon arrival and departure.

I never do webcam shows or show my face in my photos and videos, which means I do not get recognised when we are out in public together.

Photographer: Darla Blake

Do you smoke?

I don't smoke. Sorry, smoking fetishists! I don't mind if you do, though, as long as you don't mind skipping the French kissing. If you think you will need to smoke or vape during an incall date, please let me know at time of booking so I can try and find somewhere with a balcony for you to relax on. The hotels I book for incall dates unfortunately do not allow smoking or vaping in the rooms.

Why don't you charge less and see more Clients?

I value exclusivity, discernment and a luxury lifestyle, and my Clients value the fact that so few men get to meet me. I am only interested in the crème de la crème, just like you.

I'm worried about carrying that much cash around with me…

I take a 50% deposit via bank transfer to secure every booking, so you need carry only 50% of my consideration with you on the day- or if you prefer, you can transfer the remaining amount two hours before we are due to meet. I do recommend bringing along a little spare cash though, so you can retain the option to spontaneously extend our date. Sometimes bank transfers move too slowly (up to two hours!) to allow for spontaneity.

Can we hang out for free after our booking ends?

If you give me the exact money, I will give you the exact time. These are valued resources that we are exchanging with each other. Let’s appreciate what we choose to share in the spirit of trust and make these gifts we exchange feel honoured and prized. If you would like to hang out for longer after our booking ends, whether you want to relax further in the room or take me for dinner, simply ask to extend (this is when bringing that spare cash along aids in spontaneity) and if I can, I will.

Do you have an online dating profile?

You are reading it right now. This is how I like to date: with discernment and exclusivity, enjoying a luxury lifestyle with valued Clients. You will not find me on any “civilian” dating apps.

What do you like to do in London?

If you are looking for a secure hotel with discreet staff, I can send you a list of suggestions- or recommend a professional dungeon, if you prefer. For a secure hotel with discreet staff, you can’t do much better than The Savoy or The Ritz. They have so much practice.

I like to take tea at Claridge’s or go for a cocktail in the Claridge's Fumoir or The Dorchester's China Tang bar... they are both glamorous, dimly lit, and without windows, so you really feel tucked safely away from the world in there. They both feel like glamourous 1930s dens designed for smoking cigarettes in long cigarette holders while wearing opera gloves. I am interested in history and Twentieth Century décor so I really enjoying hanging out in old London hotels like Claridge’s. New hotels are fine but they don’t have the atmosphere.

I love dining at Scott's, The Ritz or Hakkasan, among others. During the day, I like to shop Coco De Mer for sensual lingerie and the naughtiest boudoir accessories. Fetishists, I recommend you drop in on Atsuko Kudo for fabulous lace-printed latex lingerie (she does all Lady Gaga's latex) and Vivienne Westwood's shop for rubbery high heels. Made-to-measure Atsuko Kudo latex is some of the finest latex in the world. There are branches of Christian Louboutin conveniently located in both Harrods and Selfridges (who do lovely walk-in express back massages and have an agreeable rooftop cocktail bar), but actually I prefer jumping on the Eurostar for a "shoes cruise" to get that Parisian Louboutin discount!

An interesting museum or art gallery exhibition, an old movie with cocktails at an arthouse cinema, or relaxing in one of London's grand parks with a picnic from Harrods Food Hall during the summer are other favourite daytime pastimes that are far more special when shared.

You could also see if Torture Garden is running any club events while you are in town. A fetish event like Torture Garden inspires me to visit a private dungeon with select company the following day. The Peacock Parlour in North London comes highly recommended. For a more sedately sexy time, I very much enjoy the ballet or opera. Ballet in particular has a very interesting history in relation to what I do.

I have lived in London for years, so if you are visiting and would like more tips, let’s meet for a cocktail or mocktail in one of those hidden bars. Contact me now.

"Lilly has it all- she's beautiful, sophisticated, sweet, sexy and a killer body." - Rff1

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