A Client's Guide to Avoiding Fake "Escort" Scams
I put up an AMA post on Reddit recently and someone asked how to avoid getting scammed- it was the one thing holding him back from leaping into the luxurious pleasure of booking an Escort. It could have been holding him back for years! I found I had several suggestions to make so I decided to collate them all into a blog. If I think of anything further, I will update :)
Avoiding scams is a topic that comes up again and again on Twitter, usually in reference to "clients" who refuse to screen or send a deposit because they say they are afraid of being scammed.
I put "clients" in quotation marks because you're not really a Client unless you actually meet Escorts, and of course you can't actually meet Escorts if you don't follow their screening procedures. So really, they are much better described as men who stay home and repeatedly cock-block themselves out of fear.
Firstly, I would like to reassure any potential Client reading this that if you are reasonably sober and sensible, you will probably never be scammed.
I have been meeting Clients for years, most of whom have far more experience than I do, and have never ever had one mention being scammed. I'm sure it happens, but I don't think it's particularly common. However, it is still perfectly understandable to want to stack the odds in favour of it never happening to you.
- you send an "escort" a deposit and then never hear from them again.
- you book a date with an "escort" who then blackmails you instead of meeting you.
- you meet an "escort" at her home, except instead of an escort, there is a gang of men waiting for you who rob you.
Notice I am also putting "escort" in quotation marks. An Escort by definition is someone who has sex with you in exchange for money, but they are obviously not who we are talking about here. A person who steals money is a thief, a person who blackmails is a blackmailer and a gang who rob you are muggers, all of which are completely illegal and should be reported to the police. So who we're really talking about is thieves, blackmailers and muggers, and how to avoid them.
Step 1: READ THE WEBSITE. NOW READ IT AGAIN.
The most important step is the first one: doing your research, which is a fancy way of saying reading. If you can read, you will probably never be scammed.
Read the Escort's own website, all of it, not just the directory listings and online adverts you found on Google. Directory listings can be a convenient way to discover new people's websites, but may also be years out of date, or even auto-generated and not posted by the lady in question at all. Directory profiles are fun to browse but do try to find the lady's personal .com or .co.uk website to ensure you are getting accurate, up to date information. Most also have a Twitter and/ or Instagram you can peruse.
If they have gone to the effort and expense of building and maintaining their own website and have been blogging or posting regularly on social media for months or even years then they are almost certainly a real person. The guys who e-mail you saying that you've won the lottery and all you need to do to claim your prize is make a Western Union transfer do not go to that much effort.
Step 2: See if she's verified on any directories
Some websites like Tryst and AdultWork will tell you on a lady's profile that she has been "Verified", which means the owner of the website has checked her ID and can confirm it is her in her photos. Sadly, there is no equivalent feature for Clients, which is why many Escorts have to ask you to e-mail them your photo ID directly. Perhaps it is time we started asking websites like AdultWork to allow Clients to verify too!
Not all legitimate Escorts get verified, not least because some websites charge for the privilege or report our IDs to US Immigration, but it's something.
Example of a verified profile (mine!) on AdultWork.
Step 3: See if she has any AdultWork feedback
If the lady you are interested in has an AdultWork profile, read her feedback from confirmed Clients that have actually met her (it is a bit like eBay). This is more reliable than anonymous places where anyone can post fake reviews (both positive and negative) and it is impossible to know if they are real Clients, fantasists, or scammers.
Not everyone is on AdultWork of course, but it doesn't hurt to look.
Step 4: Do the communications sound professional?
I would feel instantly reassured that I was doing the right thing by the perfect balance of friendliness and professionalism in an Escort’s communications with me. I would send all my screening information in the first message if possible and would be very put off by someone who never asked for any. I would equally take pause before booking a seemingly new lady with inexplicably low rates. A person could be desperate to meet for perfectly valid financial reasons, but there is a slim chance that the reason they don't seem at all picky about who they meet is because really they are looking for potential victims.
Another potentially dodgy sign in my opinion is if you send a politely worded initial enquiry and receive a torrent of unsolicited sex chat in return. I have never met a genuine sex worker who wants to extensively talk dirty for free. If they seem desperate to turn your head with an unexpected deluge of dirty talk, it might be because they are trying to distract you from noticing other things, like a lack of screening procedure.
Step 5 (optional): Ask if she offers paid phone chat or webcamming
If the lady you are interested in offers a phone chat or webcamming service via AdultWork or any other adult site, you can hear her voice and/ or see her live for yourself before meeting, while reimbursing her safely through a third party.
Step 6: Meet in a public place
Suggest meeting your date in a comfortable (indoor!) public place such as a nice cocktail or coffee bar or restaurant, instead of meeting in private straight away. The hotel bar will do fine. When she arrives, you will be able to see for yourself that she is a real lady and not a gang of men about to mug you.
However, if you still get a bad feeling and your gut tells you to bail, discreetly hand her the envelope and go. Pretend to get an urgent text message if you need to. You are obliged to pay her consideration for the time you booked, but you are not obliged to stay or have any kind of sexual or private interaction with anyone you are not comfortable with. A truly high-class Escort will understand. You can always rebook another time if you realise that you made a mistake.
What not to do: Ask for a free video call or free selfies
It is lazy, it is obnoxious, it is a security risk (especially for providers who do not publish photos or videos of their faces or voices) and it makes you look like you don't know what you're doing, because it is unnecessary if you have already followed the above steps.
In the unlikely event that a provider agrees to see you after you've made this ill-mannered request, you will have made a horrible first impression that will be difficult to come back from- except possibly with extensive tipping and gifts! Better to just not do it in the first place.
Final thoughts
Safety goes both ways. Some Clients are nervous about getting scammed, whereas all Escorts are nervous about getting raped or murdered, which is something to bear in mind when navigating meeting an Escort for the first time. However high your stakes are, ours unfortunately are always higher.
If you are still too nervous to meet an Escort, consider booking some Virtual Girlfriend Experiences instead.
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